Oral Sex Techniques and Games for Couples: Body Sugar


When two people want to be together for a long time – whether as friends with benefits or in a committed long term partnership – it can help to keep sex interesting by making it fun. Some couples enjoy using sex toys such as vibrators, dildos or couples toys as part of their sex play or foreplay techniques; others try different positions, have sex in different rooms of the house, or perhaps they sneak away to a hotel or bed & breakfast for a sexy night. Recently in Chicago, I dropped by Tulip (one of several terrific sex boutiques in the city) and sampled two of their flavored body sugars in Mint Julep and Brown Sugar flavors. Both were tasty, though I ended up purchasing the Mint Julep flavor (see above photo).

Body sugars and powders can help to make oral sex more tasty – but they can also enhance sex more generally. In addition to improving the taste of sex, body sugars can also add to sex by helping to add variety to the way in which people experience sex. For example, if you really like the taste of a body sugar, then sprinkling it over a partner’s body (whether their penis, vulva, breasts, stomach, inner thigh or chest) can encourage you to spend more time on that body part. It might encourage slower licking, repeat licking or softer, slower massaging of that part as you try to spread the body sugar evenly over your partner’s skin. You can also expand your oral sex techniques by exploring different rhythms, paces, body positions and levels of energy (e.g., excitement or enthusiasm while performing oral sex versus a more mellow experience).

You can make a game out of oral sex play and do flavored powder taste tests (sprinkling it on a body part where you’d like some attention and then asking your partner to guess the flavor). You can also sprinkle a “happy trail” on your own or your partner’s body and kiss or lick your way down the sprinkled path. There are many ways to use flavored sex sugars to enhance your sex life and I’d encourage you and your partner to explore what feels right for you.

That said, some cautions do apply. If you’re prone to genital irritation or, for women, yeast infections, then you’ll probably want to avoid putting sugary products on your genitals. Some powders may contain oils, so if you’re using latex condoms then you may not want to mix the two as oils can break down latex condoms and cause them to tear more easily. Individuals with diabetes sometimes have specific concerns about using products that contain sugars on their genitals (or licking/eating them off someone else’s body). Health issues are important when considering body powders/sugars as well as lubricants, and if you have questions about your personal health needs, then definitely check in with your healthcare provider.

If you want to try flavored body sugars or powders, I’d suggest sampling flavors before buying them. Try to find a local shop or an in-home sex toy party that allows you to try products before you buy so that you don’t end up accidentally making sex taste bad when what you’re trying to do is have sex that feels – and tastes - yummy.  And as always, have fun exploring your sexuality whether alone or with a partner. Learn more about lubricants, sex toys and other ways to make sex more fun (and tasty) in my new book, Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction (pre-order your copy here).

Related MSP Posts:

- Oral Sex Tip: Decide You Like It (Click HERE to read)
- Playing with Men’s Testicles: Fun Sex Games (Click HERE to read)
- How to Perform Oral Sex Without Gagging (Click HERE to read)
- How to Have Sex in the Shower (Comfortably) (Click HERE to read)
- Hummingbird Sex Position (Click HERE to read)

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.

  • Bob

    Im’a take my bird in a secluded field, in a tent, and lick like crazy. Hehehe.

  • Bob

    Im’a take my bird in a secluded field, in a tent, and lick like crazy. Hehehe.