Oooh la la! Do it! Do it now! Kiss, initiate, touch, and, um…

Too many people are thinking of security instead of opportunity. They seem more afraid of life than death.
  – James F. Byrnes 

This was a recent iGoogle quote of the day. I thought about how it applies to relationships and sexuality, how people sometimes shy away from doing something that might make them vulnerable because they worry about getting rejected. So your partner/boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband looks at you funny or says a flat-out no or even a potentially hurtful "are you kidding me, never!?!?!" GIVE IT A TRY! Ask someone out on a date. Share a fantasy with your partner. Initiate sex. Kiss your partner with more passion (and more tongue!) than you have in weeks or months. You don’t have to turn your sex life around in a 180-way overnight; just show a little more passion, a little more enthusiasm, a little more sexiness or energy than you have in recent times.

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at