MSP Sex Q&A: Where can I find porn for couples or women?

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Question: I’m one of those rare women who LIKES PORN! Now, uh, where can I find some (and please don’t say those sleazy adult bookstores crawling with men) that I can watch with my husband, or by myself when he’s traveling for work?

Answer: Although few women have been raised with the sense that it’s okay for women to like porn, the fact is that some do. Some women like watching porn alone, such as to up their arousal or to ease orgasm during masturbation, and other women enjoy watching porn with a partner.

One site, www.pornmoviesforwomen.com, is sort of a clearinghouse of woman-oriented porn sites and resources. It’s a good place to start when you’re trying to get a sense of what’s out there. That said, no two women are alike and some women prefer male-oriented porn which, as you likely know, is one unintentionally clicked pop-up box away from many internet searches and also widely available in adult bookstores.

Speaking of adult bookstores, an increasing number of adult bookstores are owned by or run by women, or have strong feminist approaches so you don’t have to worry about “sleazy” stores as your only option. Take, for instance, Babeland in Seattle and New York City; Early to Bed, g Boutique and Tulip in Chicago; Come As You Are in Toronto; Good Vibrations in San Francisco, Berkeley and Brookline, Mass; and The Pleasure Chest in LA and Chicago. If you’re in or around these areas, check out their selection of sexually explicit films and other materials to see what interests you.

Finally, some women, men and couples have found that amateur-ish sites such as www.Xtube.com give them access to a wide range of ways that sexuality is portrayed and with far less of the fake porn genre found in so many industry-made films. Have fun exploring!

[Above photo by jcolman.]

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.