Kinsey Confidential Podcast: Boyfriend’s orgasm takes a long time from oral sex

Often people expect women to be the ones who take a long time to orgasm when in fact some men find it takes them a long time to reach orgasm as well. Some men find it takes a while for them to orgasm during certain sexual behaviors (like intercourse or oral sex) but not others (like masturbation) but it varies and can occur across all sex acts or only during certain ones. Recently at Kinsey Confidential a listener asked us a question about her boyfriend taking a while to come during oral sex – you can listen to her question and my answer below. Find more of our podcasts on our Kinsey Confidential web site and become a Facebook "fan" of Kinsey Confidential too!

Question: I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 6 months. I am his first girlfriend and he’s never had sex before. He hasn’t been able to reach an orgasm from a hand job, so I find oral sex the only way of pleasing him. However, it still takes him a while – sometimes nearly 45 minutes. I’m getting a little frustrated. Is there anything that I can do to try to help him?

Listen to my answer on our podcast!

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About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.