How to Orgasm During Sex: Tilt Your Hips, Ladies!

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When it comes to female orgasm, there is no such thing as a sure thing. There is no magical Harry Potter spell (though those who saw promo photos of Daniel Radcliffe in Equus may wish there were). There is also no magic sure-thing sex position to take from women from “that was nice” to “that was wow”. But there are tricks. And there are ways to get a leg up. Tilting your hips is one such trick.

Sometimes it’s the smallest changes that can make sex sing in ways you haven’t felt before. The next time you’re masturbating or having sex, try propping your hips up with a pillow. Or try squeezing your butt cheeks and your PC muscles at the same time (you know, your pelvic floor muscles- the same ones you’d squeeze if you were trying to stop peeing mid-stream) and tilt your hips upward. Or, let’s say the head of your bed backs up into a wall. Place two pillows up against the wall so that you can prop yourself up in bed against the pillowed wall and have sex in that position.

Though each of these tilts take your hips in a different angle (hips up, hips down, etc), the point is that your hips are tilted. The fit will feel very different than when you are flat against each other. If you don’t like one tilt style, try another one until you find one that fits you in a way that takes you to oh-my-goodness land. Play with it. Move your titled hips around in circles – slowly. Squeeze your PC muscles. If you’re having sex with a guy and he has foreskin, squeeze your PC muscles in ways that make you feel like you are sexily sliding it along with you. Pulse your PC muscles. Kiss with more passion or with more tenderness. Take time and play a little bit in ways that matter. See if the tilted version of sex can focus more sensation on the front wall of the vagina.

The thing about orgasm is that tilted hips can help but they’re not the whole sha-bang. Sex is a package deal. It’s the way that bodies fit together, the way two souls connect, and the way you touch and kiss and feel each other inside and out. The hips can play an important role (especially for front vaginal wall/g spot stimulation), and I’d encourage you to try it out, but keep your focus on exploring sensations and the ways your bodies meet each other and all should be yummy indeed.

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- Sex positions for more orgasmic sex: the coital alignment technique

[Originally published in my weekly sex column at Cheeky Chicago.]

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.

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    I have tilted the hips before and – ya …… works for me! Especially when someone is looking for the ever evasive G-Spot. Great thing about advice – it doesn’t hurt to try and who knows you might just find the next great thing you’ve been after all along.

  • http://toywithme.com Toy With Me

    I have tilted the hips before and – ya …… works for me! Especially when someone is looking for the ever evasive G-Spot. Great thing about advice – it doesn’t hurt to try and who knows you might just find the next great thing you’ve been after all along.

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