“How to Fuck” by Mellissa McEwan may be the best instructions I’ve ever read for having sex. Generic, sure, but that’s part of what’s so amazing about them. This set of instructions leaves pleasure up to whoever is involved and assumes that you want to protect yourselves. There are no assumptions of what normal is and nor do I think the author even cares. Sex is fun and should be had for fun. And consent is a necessity. Her instructions begin with:
1. Find a consenting partner (or partners).
2. Get your partner/s’ explicit consent. Give your explicit consent. Compliance is not the same as consent. Your partner/s should be as excited and ready as you are. Don’t try to talk anyone else, or yourself, into fucking.
Read the rest of the 5 steps on Shakesville.
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