How Breast Play Makes for Better Sex

Whether you call them breasts, boobs, boobies, tatas, gazungas, or something else entirely, I’m sure you have a name for the lovely lady lumps sitting on your or your partner’s chest. And why wouldn’t you? Breasts are an absolute wonder. They attract the attention of men by some mysterious natural force, they come in all sorts of shapes and sizes, and they just happen to feed and nourish babies, too.

But when it comes to sex, breasts often get neglected. When a young woman first goes through puberty, breasts get a lot of visual, eye-catching attention. And when young women start to kiss and make out, they get touching type of attention. After all, most women have their breasts touched and/or licked before they ever have intercourse.

Once intercourse starts, though, it’s as if the vagina somehow upstages the breasts leaving them to wonder…where did the love go?

One thing we know from research is that many women long for more breast play as part of their sex. If you’re one of those women, or if you suspect your partner might be, consider adding one or more of the following to your sex life:

-       Lacing the breasts with whipped cream for a yummylicious time.

-       Decorating the breasts with flavored, edible body cream or paint and then slowly lick them off.

-       Boost them up! Why not wear a balconette bra or a bustier to enjoy the look of your own beautiful breasts?

-       Massaging the breasts alone or with a partner starting with the tops, then the bottoms and sides, which are more sensitive than the nipples.

-       Bathing together and soaping up each others’ breasts/chests (the lathery soap can make for a sensuous time).

-       Ladies: touch your own breasts during sex.

-       For male-female couples: Introduce the breasts to their friend, the penis, for some interesting, exuberant sex play.

-       Put peanut butter on the  nipples and then chocolate on top for tasty pasties.

Breasts have the potential to play a pleasurable part in women’s sexual lives – whether alone or with a partner. Consider ways that you can make breast play fun, enjoyable, and a regular part of your sexual and sensual life.

Debby Herbenick, PhD is a sex researcher and educator, a widely read sex columnist and author of Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction. Follow her on Twitter @mysexprofessor.

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at