Hot Chocolate for Hot Nights of Sex

Recently we’ve tried oodles and oodles of fun things to get into the holiday spirit in the bedroom. First, there was the candy cane dildo and the oral sex trick of sucking on a candy cane in between licking your partner. Then there were the oh-so-frisky ways of using gingerbread men and women to suggest the unsuggestable to your partner. This week, it’s all about keeping warm as winter gets colder and men and women living in igloo conditions look for creative things to do on snow days.

This week’s theme, then, is hot chocolate and how it can make for better love and sex. For example, why not:

-       Pour some hot chocolate into a heat-maintaining thermos, drive out to the lake or a park or anywhere you can get some alone time and possibly a nice view (of nature, not just each other). Pour a cup for each of you – or share – topping it off with a little Baileys or Peppermint Schnapps if the mood should strike. Save the whipped cream for later. For now, sit and sip your warm cocoa in your car under the stars or looking out over the snowy, ice-covered lake.

-       Stay home and get naked (obviously). But the cocoa-ish part is this: first, take 1 tablespoon of confectioners sugar and mix it in a small little dish with about ¼ to ½ teaspoon (to taste) of cocoa powder. Once in the bedroom or in front of the fireplace, turn his penis or her mons (the triangular part) or outer labia into a tasty cocoa treat. Try to not get the cocoa-laced sugar in the vagina, though, lest one risk causing irritation or a yeast infection. That’s right: make sure to lick every little tasty bit off. Yum.

-       Cocoa sensations: Once again, make some hot chocolate and lace it with Peppermint schapps. Take sips in between oral sex licks. The minty chocolate will taste good for you and the the peppermint sensations will feel good for him. Ta da! Tasty and fun. Score one for the Most Creative Girlfriend or Boyfriend Ever (that would be you).

And that, my friends, is the way to use hot chocolate for more romance and steamier, more creative sex at home. Bon appétit and bon sex!

[Originally published in my weekly sex column at Cheeky Chicago.]

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at


    Hey I think I'll try that.