From Hit Me Baby One More Time to her love affair gone wrong with Justin to her marriage to and divorce from K-Fed, Britney ranks among the top Celebrity Sexperts of contemporary times. Here’s what I think we can learn from her:
- Don’t lie. Don’t cheat. And if you cheat? Well, let’s just say it’s probably not a wise move to cheat on someone who can make your life miserable after that, such as by writing a song about your lies and then hiring a look-a-like actress to play you in the video version of your lies. Cry me a river, already. If you’re not into a relationship anymore, leave it on good footing, free to start something new when you’re ready.
- Own your sexuality. Remember all the “is she, isn’t she” a virgin stuff from ages ago? At first, Britney tried to play the virgin card for way longer than she should have, particularly as she and Justin were supposedly vacationing together and shacking up. After it was all said and done, he ended up blowing her cover in a primetime television interview. Who cares what other people think about your sexuality? Own whoever it is you are and whatever it is you do. You’ll be happier in the long run if you can first accept yourself.
- Dress up. There was the school girl outfit in Hit Me, the red latex catsuit in Oops, and the stewardess who wiped Champagne off of men’s laps and brought guys into the Mile High Club in Toxic. Take a hint, find a costume from Three Wishes and explore your saucy side in the bedroom.
- In love, do your own thing. Everyone was pretty much on board with Britney’s teen dream relationship with Justin. But then there was the quickie Vegas ceremony. And that wedding to K-Fed? Also a bit of a shocker. But you know what? A great story hopefully came out of Vegas and two beautiful little babies came from the marriage. Though no one knows where Britney’s life will take her, at least she’s (hopefully) not doing only what she feels everyone else wants her to do in order to fit in. In love and in sex, we all have to make our own way. Make sure you enjoy whatever path it takes you on â€“ even if you hit a few bumpy roads from time to time.
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Debby Herbenick, PhD is a sex researcher and educator, a widely read sex columnist and author of Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction. Follow her on Twitter @mysexprofessor.