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How Common is Pain During Vaginal and Anal Intercourse?

Our new study addresses pain during vaginal and anal intercourse among a nationally representative study of Americans. The data are from our 2012 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior and have just been published online in the Journal of Sexual Medicine (infographic below thanks to David Orr). We see, for example, that 30% of women report pain during vaginal sex and about 72% report pain during anal sex. Though pain is less commonly reported by men, doctors, nurses, researchers and educators should pay more attention to men’s experiences of pain during sex, too.  Our data also show that sizable proportions of Americans never even tell their partner when they’re in pain, which of course leaves one’s partner unable to help, to switch positions, to add lubricant, or to avoid that position or kind of thrusting or whatever else in the future…. Continue Reading →

5 Things You Should Know About Coregasm (Having an Orgasm While You Exercise)

My newest book, The Coregasm Workout, is all about coregasms – that is, exercise-induced orgasm (EIO) and also exercise-induced arousal (EIA). A lot of things have been written on the Internet about coregasms and unfortunately much of it isn’t true. That’s why I wrote the book: because I very often receive questions about this area of my research and because I like it when people have good, solid information. Let’s start with some basics:

1. Exercise-induced orgasm is not rare. Continue Reading →

What Do You Do to Make Sex Normal?

In response to a pretty tough 2012 election season in which I felt depressingly and repeatedly reminded how little information and comfort there is about sexuality and reproductive health issues, I kept wondering what I could do. It hit me that sex is so compartmentalized that it’s often difficult for people to talk about sex in the regular everyday ways we talk about driver’s safety, hand washing, love, and other issues related to health and humanity. A phrase kept coming to me, which is that we need to “Make Sex Normal”, a project I’ve recently launched at http://www.MakeSexNormal.tumblr.com

I hope that you will consider sharing what *you* are doing to Make Sex Normal – and by “sex”, I’m referring to the big umbrella of things like sex, gender, reproduction, puberty, genitals, etc. My hope is that the more people can learn about concrete, everyday ways that they can make sex normal, then sex will just become normal and something we can talk and teach about. How can you participate? Continue Reading →

How to Not Be Creepy in Public

Recently we had a Krampus event in the town where I live and it was pretty impressive. And yet – in spite of the awesomeness of the larger than life Krampus figures showing children (and adults) what happens when one is naughty or nice – I was dealing with another issue. Not a Krampus, but a Creeper. You see, there was a long procession that involved the crowd of people who had come to see the Krampus actually get to walk along a pathway with the various Krampus and angels. My two friends from work and I were part of the throng. Continue Reading →

This Week on MSP: Celebration


Now that we’re in the full swing of the holiday season, MSP’s blogging team will discussing “celebration” in its many forms. We find cause for celebration in many things: great sex, fantastic relationships, and even one’s gender. While family gatherings for the holidays aren’t always stress-free, the practice of celebration over the season can remind us of what we want out of our lives and relationships. It can catalyze self-awareness about what we value, such as whether you find tradition satisfying, or if it’s spontaneity that lights your fire. We hope our posts will interest, inspire, and offer a pleasant antidote to the increasingly annoying Santa-themed songs that have been playing in every store since October. Happy Holidays from MSP! Continue Reading →

This Week’s Theme on MSP: Change

This week on MSP, our blogging team will be exploring the concept of change as it related to sex and relationships. Change can be both difficult and exciting, self-directed or out-of-control, but it’s inextricably part of our personal and public lives. With the upcoming election, many people are feeling the weight of potential change and what that means for their lives and others’ lives the world over. From marriage to health, education to homophobia in sports, this week’s posts will be discussing both personal experience and the larger cultural implications of change. Continue Reading →

Genitals in the Wild: Fungi Edition

Dandenongs genital in the wild

I recently had the pleasure of visiting the spectacularly beautiful National Rhododendron Gardens, which are just outside of Melbourne near the Dandenong Ranges. While the gardens themselves were lovely, they were sadly void of natural genitals-in-the-wild (at least, as much as I could see). The gift shop, however, yielded much more in that department. Near the artisanal soaps, I saw this collection of porcelain fungi and LOLed at not only their phallic shape, but also at their shadows in the background. I was tempted to pay the $16 to own one for myself, but settled on a photo to share with you all for your filthy-minded amusement. Continue Reading →

Genitals in the Wild: Hanging on the Wall

What pairs well with red wine and duck breast? Clitoral-inspired wall art, apparently. Earlier this fall, I was out dining with a friend in Philadelphia when I spotted this beauty on the wall. Now I can only assume that the artist responsible for this painting did not intend for it to resemble the upper most part of a woman’s vulva. But as I admired the paintings lining the walls of The Matyson, there it was, clitoral-esque art positioned right above my date’s head. Continue Reading →

Who “Owns” Information about the Clitoris?

Apparently the Museum of Sex (an interesting place) has a blog. I learned about their blog because, on it, they have a post titled “How Cosmo Stole the Clitoris” in which it’s suggested that Cosmo writer Jessica Knoll “stole” aspects of her article from a MoSex blog post. Not only that, but the blogger who wrote the post – Julie Ruvolo – suggested that either I was misquoted in the Cosmo article (I was not) or I was “in on it” (I was not “in” on anything except that I agreed, as I do several times per week, to be interviewed on sexuality topics for a magazine). Ms. Ruvolo never contacted me to ask about the Cosmo article or anything else pertaining to this article. She didn’t fact check with me. Continue Reading →

Only Post Pretty Pictures

My friend Jenny shared a story (ironically?) on Facebook that is all about how Facebook banned a mother’s photos, and later put the mother on a 24 hour ban from the site. I know many people who have had some rather heated discussions lately over the Timeline on Facebook, but this upsets me more. Sometimes life isn’t always sunshine and roses, and similarly that means that not every photo a person takes is going to show the “pretty” things. So Heather Walker’s son was born with Anencephaly (a defect that results in the child missing portions of the brain and skull)? One of the first things that parents do is take photos of their beautiful baby, and the Walker family was no different. Continue Reading →