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All About Strap-ons: An Interview with Louise Bourchier

Earlier this year, I had the pleasure of attending a fantastic presentation by Louise Bourchier on strap-ons, which was hosted by Pleasure Forum Australia. I had no idea there was so much to know about the subject. Louise gave such an informative and entertaining presentation, I couldn’t wait to interview her about her expertise. Kate: Tell me, how did you come to know so much about strap-ons? Louise: Well, I guess I got interested in strap-ons a few years ago when I was expanding my sexual horizons. Continue Reading →

Gender on the Galactica

Ok, so I’m secretly a huge nerd. Well, maybe that’s not so secret. But recently I’ve been accepting my true nerdiness and allowing myself to delve into some awesome sci-fi shows. For the past week, I’ve spent most of my free time watching Battlestar Galactica. I’m only on season 2, but so far I’m fascinated by all of the sexuality/gender play on the show! Continue Reading →

Bisexuality Explained

This Youtube video briefly but brilliantly says what bisexuality is and what it is not. It is simply being attracted to both men and women. It is not anything more than that. That’s it. When someone who identifies as bisexual ends up in a relationship with a man or a woman, she or he is not selling out or giving up or picking men over women or vice versa; they simply happened to choose to love that individual. Continue Reading →

A Fairy Tale Film About Same Sex Marriage

The fairy tale is an art form flexible and abstract enough to be repurposed for just about anything. This is exactly what happened when Middle Tennessee State University professor Bob Pondillo filmed “The Miracles on Honey Bee Hill,” a short film using actors aged 8-9 years old and utilizing the tropes of fairy tales to explore the issue of same sex marriage. However, the film’s reception was controversial, as local Republican politicians were quick to decry the use of child actors as exploitative, despite the fact that the director took every precaution: letting the parents/guardians read the script, having them on the premises while the film was made, and signing releases. The main politician protesting the film has apparently not seen it. I wonder whether these people would be so quick to question the exploitative potential of, say, a pro-life protestor bringing children to a protest site. Continue Reading →

Birthday Wishes?

What are the top things on your birthday wish list this year? What about when you were 14? I know that I wanted a puppy (ignore the fact that I already had a dog), and maybe a car (even though I didn’t end up getting my driver’s license until I was around 17). Now a 14 year old girl in Maryland has asked lawmakers to give her the “best birthday present ever” (her wording) – to not legalize gay marriage. While I do think that advocacy is an important practice and I applaud anyone who encourages advocacy in their child, I’m a little sad that this is someone’s birthday wish. Continue Reading →

Transgender People Banned From Flying In Canada

Recent Canadian regulations specify that an air carrier may not transport a passenger who “does not appear to be of the gender indicated on the identification he or she presents.” Due to Canadian restrictions on who can change the “sex” designation on their passport, many transpeople are thus excluded from the airline guidelines. This is outright discriminatory and should be addressed immediately. Follow us on Twitter @mysexprofessor. Follow Jeana, the author of this post, @foxyfolklorist. Continue Reading →

Zero Child Abuse In Lesbian Households

Many thanks go to Feministing for pointing out this study demonstrating that there are no reports of child abuse within lesbian households (as opposed to 26% of American adolescents overall, ostensibly from heterosexual households, who report parent or caregiver physical abuse). One more reason not to discriminate against parents claiming a different sexual orientation than the norm. Follow us on Twitter @mysexprofessor. Follow Jeana, the author of this post, @foxyfolklorist. Continue Reading →

Funding Second Class Citizens

Check out this incredible video about the history of gay rights in the US. You’ll recognize Alfred Kinsey, Dan Savage, Hillary Clinton, President Obama, Harvey Milk, Rachel Maddow, Sarah Silverman, Ellen DeGeneres, and so many others. Unfortunately there are also a number of young men who most of us never got to meet because they ended their lives as a result of bullying, or their lives were ended for them as a result of homophobia, hatred and violence. Watch the clip above and, if you can, donate on Kickstarter. And of course do what you can in your own communities to make things better right now. Take a stand against bullying. Continue Reading →

BDSM As A Sexual Orientation

The idea of sexual orientation is a complicated one. There’s a certain comfort in believing that you’re “hard-wired” to be a certain way, especially for minority or stigmatized groups who can justifiably say, why would I choose this given how hard it is to be this way? I think this also connects to how in the Western world, identity is seen as something stable and intrinsic; yeah, people will change over time, but you are who  you are at your very core and you were probably born that way. Sex activist Clarisse Thorn has promulgated the idea that BDSM (a configuration of activities including bondage and domination, sadism and masochism, domination and submission) is a sexual orientation. This may seem strange at first, especially if you’re used to hearing that being gay or straight is a sexual orientation. Continue Reading →

My Sex-Related Birthday Wish!

Today is my birthday! And I have a wish for those who would like to help celebrate. In the midst of a political climate in which:

- odd things are being said about contraception (Says Santorum: “It’s a license to do things in a sexual realm that is counter to how things are supposed to be” - even Bill O’Reilly challenged him on the idea of states outlawing contraception)

- same-sex couples continue to be treated poorly, with disrespect and as if they have less of a right to love and marriage than everyone else

- politicians make false claims about science related to sexual health

….my birthday wish is that support be shown to organizations who are trying to improve the lives of GLBT youth and women and men who want to access healthcare services (including annual gyn exams, Pap tests, colposcopies, and STI testing), contraception and evidence-based information about sexual health. If you’re able, please donate to the It Gets Better Project (which funds anti-bullying and GLBT suicide prevention programs) and/or Planned Parenthood. Any amount would help! And whether or not you have funds to support these organizations, I hope you’ll continue to fight the good fight in your communities by supporting sexuality education, access to healthcare and the civil rights of people of all sexual orientations and gender identities. Continue Reading →