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Pleasure-Inclusive Sex Education

“I wish I’d been taught that in my sex ed” is something I hear quite often from participants in the “pleasure physiology” workshops that I teach. Clearly, sexual pleasure is important to most people, but rarely do we get comprehensive education on the subject unless we actively seek it out. In my workshops, I love talking about anatomy and physiology from a pleasure, rather than just reproductive, perspective and exploring how to eroticize safer sex practices. Certainly, I think that reproductive education is important, but when most folks have sex, it’s for pleasure, not procreation. Likewise, teaching about sexually-transmissible infections (STIs) is important, but the ever-popular “gloom-and-doom” approaches to STI prevention leave a lot to be desired. Continue Reading →

Where Do Desires Come From?

Why do we find certain things sexy, and other things un-sexy? How much of our desires are governed by genes, or culture, or individual quirks? From being turned on by “normal” things like a glimpse of an attractive body to the less mainstream attractions like fetish wear and pain, there are a variety of factors influencing what people find desirable. Be warned, this is a somewhat rambling post, representing my attempt to get a hold on what is perhaps one of the trickiest aspects of sexuality: where desires come from. Some desires are likely connected to our evolution and our genes, such as the desire for traits that are adaptive to survival. Continue Reading →

What Happens When a Well-Known Cartoonist Draws His Life as a John?

Chester Brown is a well known cartoonist. He also apparently has a history of paying for sex, or so he says draws. What happens when his worlds of cartooning and paying for sex collide is his new book, Paying for It: A Comic Strip Memoir about Being a John, in which he draws his own experiences with a number of women. Read the very interesting interview on Straight. (Hat tip to Rama for the link.)

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“Piss”- A Short Film About A Real Relationship Issue: NSFW

I recently came across a short film on youtube called “Piss” (watch it on YouTube). Just a warning in case you didn’t read the title…this video is NSFW! However, if you happen to be sitting at home with nobody around but your cats, definitely check it out. I think it portrays a really common issue in modern relationships. The film depicts a young heterosexual couple trying to work out a kink in their sex life. Continue Reading →

Should Every Gay Guy Bottom? This Guy Thinks So.

Okay, so, I admit it. As finals are steadily approaching, I’ve been spending more and more time Stumbling and less time actually doing my work. It’s kind of a college student’s rite of passage…right? Anyway, I recently came across this video by Davey Wavey. According to his theory, every gay guy should bottom at some point. Continue Reading →

Review of Jonathan’s Engel’s “The Epidemic”

As promised, here is my review of The Epidemic:

The Epidemic: A Global History of AIDS promises two things in its title: to explore HIV/AIDS both from a global and from an historical perspective.  This promise of comprehensive coverage is met with aplomb as Engel takes us on a dizzying tour of the trajectory of HIV/AIDS.  Starting with its alleged origins in Africa, he traces the vectors of the disease into the gay population in the U.S., on to IV drug users, then back across the ocean to talk about how it currently affects the developing areas of Africa and Asia.  Along the way, he discusses the politics, civil rights issues, and how the disease actually works.  Engel approaches issues from all angles, making sure all dissenting opinions and seemingly crackpot theories are mentioned.  He debunks myths, gives proper credit for important advances, and attempts to keep a neutral tone while discussing these hot-button issues. Continue Reading →

Wii Dares What Kinect Won’t

In a previous post of mine, I conjectured that it would be a long time before we see a Rock Band type game looking at sex and sexual activity.  Well, I have been proven wrong! This article talks about the parents who are up in arms since a company released a sexy Truth or Dare game for the Nintendo Wii.  Check out the commercial – it seems like tame fun that could lead to other things! What do you about this?  Like Violet Blue, the NSFW bloggess that led me here, does this entice you to purchase and/or dust off the Wii?  Or perhaps something to use the Wii for now that your Wii Fit board is languishing unloved in the corner?  Or is this normal adult/teen antics for the virtual video game age? Learn about MSP posts as they happen by following us on Twitter @mysexprofessor. You can also follow Craig VanKempen, the author of this post, @craigvk and make friends with us on Facebook. Continue Reading →

Sex Toy Review: MyPleasure Waterproof Pocket Rocket

Here we are in the middle of March and I still find myself wondering about how people spend romantic occasions, such as Valentine’s Day. Do you spend them with your partner or prefer flying solo? Do you go out to a fancy dinner or keep it low key and cook at home? Do you surprise a loved one with jewelry or maybe you’re more traditional and stick to the flower/chocolate combo? Well this year – whatever the occasion – I challenge you to spice things up – why not try a sex toy? Continue Reading →

I Wanna Do Queer Porn…So What?

So, I’m just gonna put it out there, I really want to do queer feminist porn. I’d love to participate in a project similar to the Crash Pad Series or Freedom Porn (which I blogged about earlier on). I want to be able to present my body and sexuality to viewers in a sex- and body-positive way that screams, “it’s good to love sex”! But there’s a problem. I am a white, Jewish, middle class woman being educated at a prestigious women’s college from a fairly wealthy suburb of Boston. Continue Reading →