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Attachment Parenting and Sexuality: Does Co-Sleeping Mean No Sex?

If you’ve been following my recent posts, you know that I’ve gotten a bit baby-obsessed as of late. No, it’s not the realization that my biological clock is ticking (though it definitely is), but in fact my new-found interest in parenting has stemmed from spending 18 hours a week at a baby boutique. Working in Western Massachusetts, I hear a lot about baby-wearing, green parenting, and, of course, co-sleeping. Co-sleeping, one of the three tenets of attachment parenting, is the practice of sleeping in the same bed as your child. Co-sleeping has tons of benefits, the most important of which is feeling close to your child. Continue Reading →

All About Strap-ons: An Interview with Louise Bourchier

Earlier this year, I had the pleasure of attending a fantastic presentation by Louise Bourchier on strap-ons, which was hosted by Pleasure Forum Australia. I had no idea there was so much to know about the subject. Louise gave such an informative and entertaining presentation, I couldn’t wait to interview her about her expertise. Kate: Tell me, how did you come to know so much about strap-ons? Louise: Well, I guess I got interested in strap-ons a few years ago when I was expanding my sexual horizons. Continue Reading →

Book Review: Confessions of a Pickup Artist Chaser

Longtime MSP readers will know that we are big fans of Clarisse Thorn’s writing: she intelligently tackles important sex topics such as BDSM, sexual submission, open relationships, and sex-positivity. So we of course were super-excited when her book, Confessions of a Pickup Artist Chaser, came out (available on Amazon and Smashwords and in paperback). Clarisse guides readers through her discovery of and interactions with the pickup community, explaining relevant concepts from feminism along the way. In fact, the book is so packed with anecdotes about her interactions as well as interesting ideas that she concludes each chapter with a tl;dr summary (for those of you who don’t live on the internet, “tl;dr” stands for “too long; didn’t read” and indicates that if you skipped the main content, you can get a tidy summary). So, my tl;dr summary of this book is that it’s a fascinating exploration of one sex subculture – pickup artistry – through the lens of another few subcultures – BDSM, open relationships, geek culture, and sex-positive feminism – which Clarisse puts into dialogue with one another. Continue Reading →

Toy Review: Smartballs Teneo Silicone Kegel Balls

Thanks again to our affiliates at Good Vibrations, I recently received my very own Silicone Kegel Balls by Teneo. Though these are the first Kegel balls I’ve reviewed, I was really impressed! I wasn’t surprised to hear that the Smartballs won a 2010 award for best product design. The silicone balls come in a variety of colors, and have a sleek, streamlined design…and they kind of look like miniature Death Stars (forgive my nerdy associations). For those of you that aren’t familiar with Kegel balls, here’s a little info:

-They’re used to strengthen the PC muscles in the pelvic floor. Continue Reading →

Toy Review: Fun Factory Share

Thanks to our friends over at Good Vibrations, I recently had the pleasure of reviewing the Fun Factory Share double-ended dildo. The Share, like all other Fun Factory products I’ve reviewed, is awesome! It comes with that handy little informational packet that comes with all of their products, giving information on the materials used, safety precautions, and how to best clean your product. The Share comes in 3 sizes, XS, “regular”, and XL. I received the standard Share, which comes in a lovely purple and is about 7″ on the external end and 4″ on the internal end. Continue Reading →

Thoughts On Sex Positivity

With all the sex negativity in the news (sigh), it is time to focus on something more positive: sex positivity! What, you may ask, is sex positivity? It’s the idea that sex is a natural and human thing to do, and that people should have the freedom to engage in any kind of sex in any safe and consensual way. Holly Pervocracy gives this definition: sex positivity is “the belief that sex and sexiness are… okay. Continue Reading →

Book Review: What Does Polyamory Look Like? By Mim Chapman

Psychologist Alice Kahn Ladas introduces “What Does Polyamory Look Like?” as “delightfully lighthearted, inclusively descriptive, and relevantly self-revealing,” and I agree with this assessment. For anyone interested in learning about open relationships – possibly to practice them, counsel people in them, or understand friends or family in them – this book offers a helpful overview of the basic forms this lifestyle can take. The first two chapters contain simple introductory material about polyamory, which the author defines as “a lifestyle based on the belief that it is not only possible but also perfectly normal to love more than one person at the same time.” In distinguishing polyamory from swinging, Chapman writes that the former allows more freedom to develop emotional intimacy with others while the latter emphasizes sexual intimacy. This distinction may not be universally accepted (I’ve seen polyamory used as the umbrella term under which swinging falls, for instance), but it’s the author’s right to define terms as she’ll use them throughout her work. Continue Reading →

Book Review: Tickle My Tush

Everybody loves a good sex guide- especially me! I’m now able to add Tickle My Tush: Mild-to-Wild Analplay Adventures for Everybooty by Dr. Sadie Allison to my ever-growing bookshelf. This pint-sized paperback is a great addition to any sex educator’s collection, as well as a good beginner’s how-to guide for those curious about anal play. I’ve compiled a list of my likes and dislikes below to help MSP readers determine whether or not this is the right book for them. What I Loved:

-The adorable drawings! Continue Reading →

Toy Review: MyPleasure Beginner Bondage Kit

Thanks to Garnet, I recently received a complimentary Beginner Bondage Kit from This kit has everything you need to delve into some light bondage play. For $39, you get:

2 heart ring tethers
2 heart ring ankle cuffs
2 heart ring wrist cuffs
rubber whip

Why I Love It:

-The cuffs are faux-fur lined, making them super comfortable

-Both the ankle and wrist cuffs are velcro adjustable, and fit up to 12″ and 10″, respectively

-The rings are shaped like little hearts! Adorable.  

Why I Don’t Love It:

-The whip is pretty basic and smells like rubber. Continue Reading →

Toy Review: Good Vibes Moonlight Serenade Kit

Thanks to the lovely Camilla at Good Vibes, I recently received the Moonlight Serenade Kit, a sweet little bundle that includes the adorable Bootie Anal Plug, a 2 oz bottle of Please gel lubricant, and the Screaming O cock-ring, for only $39. I highly recommend this kit to anyone wanting to explore anal play for the first time, as it’s super easy to use and visually pleasing. The Bootie

-it’s adorable! I received one in purple that is small enough to fit in the palm of my hand. -it’s easy to clean. Continue Reading →