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Take Stock of Your Sex Life for the New Year

What to do at the end of the new year as you look toward the next? Take stock of your life, of course, including your sex life. Check out my thoughts on the topic over at my weekly sex column at Cheeky Chicago. While you’re at it, read my weekly sex column at Time Out Chicago – in this week’s column, a 14 year old girl says she’s ready for sex, a reader’s girlfriend is into porn but not him, a man’s pregnant wife is not into sex but he feels too guilty to masturbate and a woman who’s new to NuvaRing wonders what it will be like to have sex with that little plastic ring inside her vagina. Continue Reading →

The Night Dan Savage Felt My Vulva (Puppet)

Yesterday, in the midst of guest lecturing, working on a research paper and meeting with students, I had the pleasure to meet Dan Savage (yes, of the widely read Savage Love column and podcast series) when he came by The Kinsey Institute to meet with research staff and tour our art collections. That’s when the magic began. Continue Reading →

MSP Q&A: The G Shot for the G Spot – does it work?

Question: Does the G Shot procedure work? Answer: Unfortunately, we have no scientifically published safety or effectiveness data on the so-called “G shot” (that I have seen, anyway). The G Shot involves an injection of collagen into the anterior (front) wall of the vagina, at or around the area described as the “g spot”. While some marketing sites for the g shot suggest that it is “FDA approved”, that is and is not true. Continue Reading →

Listen to me on Blog Talk Radio tonight at 10pm EST!

Host Alan Roger Currie and I will be talking about sex education in America and all kinds of other things about sex (including my new book, Because It Feels Good) from 10:00 to 11:30pm EST tonight. Alan’s show is a call-in show so please take the time to call in to say hi, ask sex questions or share your perspective on sex in America. Learn more about the show on the radio show’s web site. Continue Reading →

Friday Sex Round-Up

Another Friday, another weekend to get excited about. And for me, another sex conference to start packing for. Next week I’m off to Arizona for the annual meeting of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists. Until then, here’s what’s been going on this week in sex:

In my weekly In&Out sex column in Time Out Chicago magazine, you can find me answering questions about penile pain during sex following adult circumcision, inhibited ejaculation (why a guy can’t come during sex), and uncomfortable feelings of numbness during sex. Read the full column on the TOC web site. Continue Reading →

Sex Toy Shopping Tip #2: Choosing vibrators that are more quiet than loud

This post is Part 2 of a four-part series on shopping for sex toys. If you haven’t already done so, read Part 1, and check back next week for Part 3. Tip #2: Know your (noise) limits. Everyone has their own comfort sound when it comes to sound. Some of us go full throttle with our iPods or televisions (in spite of the potential damage to our ear drums) while others keep the volume more moderate or quiet. Continue Reading →

MSP Sex Q&A: What are polyamorous relationships like? Can they work?

Question: What are polyamorous relationships like? Can they work? Answer: Strictly speaking, polyamory refers to the practice of having “several lovers”. In practice, people use this term to describe a variety of different sexual and romantic relationship structures including open relationships between two people (in which it is understood that one or both partners may sometimes be sexual with others), swinging, tribes or circles (two terms sometimes used to refer to groups of people who may be sexual with each other, either at the same time or in coupled situations) and other types of structures. Human beings are creative and, as such, there are numerous ways that they may experience openness in their sexual and romantic relationships. Continue Reading →

Sex Toy Shopping Tip#1: Learn about materials sex toys are made with

Before most women shell out their hard-earned cash for a haircut or a fabulous dinner with even more fabulous wine, they’ve usually talked to their friends first or otherwise done their homework. For example, you’ve probably asked a friend of yours (whose hair you’ve long admired) where she gets her hair cut or colored and how much her stylist charges. And don’t even start with dinner – most likely, before you and your friends went all-out at your last chic affair, you perused online menus, asked friends for recommendations, or scanned online restaurant reviews to make sure your dinner would be well worth the cash. Yes? Yet, given how hush-hush many women are about their self-pleasuring, there is very little sex toy advice being shared among friends. Continue Reading →

MSP Q&A: Trimming Pubic Hair

On Yahoo Questions, a young man asked how to approach his girlfriend – who he liked very much and didn’t want to offend – about shaving her pubic hair. This was my reply:

I have a different reaction to some of the other posters here. First, I’d like to mention that most girls and boys grow up – at least initially – feeling good about their bodies. It’s only later on when kids and adults start being critical of them, telling them how they should or shouldn’t look, and what’s “acceptable” or not in terms of how fat/thin, hairy/not hairy, etc. they should be that people start to doubt or even hate their bodies. Continue Reading →