Orgasm

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Shall we rename the clitoris the “clitoral complex”?

 
A recent (scientific) article that I read suggested that we scientists might start referring to women’s "clitoral complex" given the way that the clitoris, vagina and urethra all sort of interact and are affected by each other (e.g., during vaginal penetration, the pressure on the vagina can result in stimulation of the clitoris or pressure on the urethra, etc). Anatomically, these parts are fairly interconnected. Part of the argument relates to the fact that even though people often talk about stimulating a woman’s clitoris, in fact the clitoris is much larger than meets the eye – it extends backward into a woman’s body by a few inches (and in two branches). When we say a woman likes direct clitoral stimulation, we often mean direct stimulation of the glans clitoris (the tiny part one can see from the outside) as vaginal (and g spot specific) stimulation also stimulates the inside parts of the clitoris that are out of view (on the other side of the front vaginal wall). So…. Continue Reading →

Kinsey Confidential podcast: Delaying Female Orgasm

Ever wondered about delaying – rather than speeding up – a woman’s orgasm? Well, recently at Kinsey Confidential, we received this question:
"My girlfriend achieves orgasm very quickly – within thirty seconds. Is it possible to delay her orgasm with pills or other techniques?"
Curious about my response? Listen to our podcast here:
 
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This week’s Velocity column

This week in Velocity, I respond to readers’ questions about:
- vaginal wetness/dryness
- giving a guy a chance (even though he talks way too much about himself)
- a woman’s husband who takes a super duper long time to climax
Admit it. You want to know more. So does everybody else! Visit Velocity’s web site to read the entire column. [Image via this site.] Continue Reading →

Close your eyes, cover your ears, (close your legs?) to g spot misinformation

A BBC story has this bolded quote:
"The mysterious G spot – supposedly a route to female sexual satisfaction – can be located with ultrasound, claim Italian scientists."
But that is NOT what the researchers say based on their research!! And the BBC article pretty much goes on to say that but their grabbing, bolded headline makes it sound like scientists have "found" the g spot. NOT SO! Do not believe that. It is not what the research says. Continue Reading →

Speculation

One of the nice things about anonymous Q&A columns is that they are anonymous. Women and men who have questions about their sex life send me emails to various email accounts, or else they write me letters. A few have even called (really, though, no need to Google my office # – I rarely pick up). Apparently the fact that such columns are anonymous has made, at least in one instance, an easy and unfair target out of one woman:
Case in point:
Some time ago I received a letter for my weekly Time Out Chicago column from a woman who was upset about a blog post written by her then-boyfriend. Given how common this issue is nowadays (thanks to MySpace blogs, Facebook "notes", and Blogger and WordPress blogs), I thought it made sense to print and respond to the letter (you can read the column here). Then yesterday, as I was preparing to leave Puerto Rico (sad!!!), I see a comment from reader Ed (and a few emails from others) letting me know that Gawker implied the letter was from a contributing writer for Time Out New York, a woman by the name of Julia Allison. Continue Reading →

This week’s columns

In this week’s In&Out column in Time Out Chicago magazine, I answer questions about the following topics:
- the correct verbage for teabagging
- an ex-boyfriend who blogged about their sex life
- premature ejaculation
What are you waiting for? Read the entire column online on Time Out Chicago’s web site. In my Loveville column in Velocity Weekly, this week I am answering questions about:
- a woman who keeps playing with her toys in spite of having a boyfriend
- a church leader who talks to and texts with female congregants more than his wife would like
- an unsatisfied woman who is wondering if she should love for fulfillment elsewhere
Intriguing, right? Read the full column on Velocity’s web site. Continue Reading →

How can a woman orgasm during intercourse? Is the clitoris involved?

Responding to a recent post related to female orgasm, reader Marcey wrote, “As a “lay” sex educator (pardon the pun), I talk about the legs of the clitoris embedded behind the walls of the vagina. As the first third of the vaginal walls become tight due to sexual arousal, it brings the legs closer to the penis or whatever is inserted into the vagina, thereby increasing the chances of them being stimulated enough to achieve orgasm through intercourse. I also say that only one out of five women can experience orgasm that way. Of course, I add that not being able to achieve orgasm through intercourse does not make her any less of a woman. Am I correct in my assessment of one of the ways a woman can achieve orgasm through intercourse?” Continue Reading →