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Multiple Orgasms for Women and Men: What You MUST Know

Although a few men have been found to be able to ejaculate repeatedly in a row, most men cannot have multiple orgasms*. For reasons not well understood by scientists, men have what’s called a refractory period – the time between a man’s last ejaculation and his ability have another one. Women, on the other hand, sometimes find that they can experience multiple orgasm (the ability to have one orgasm after another, without losing sexual arousal). These orgasms may be separated by seconds or by several minutes. They may be of a similar intensity or level of pleasure or they may differ (and no, the second or third is not always better or worse than the first; there’s no real order or hierarchy to multiple orgasms). Continue Reading →

MSP Q&A: Can a woman have an orgasm after she’s had a hysterectomy?

Recently someone at Yahoo Questions posted that they had not been able to have orgasms following a hysterectomy, and they were wondering if this was normal and whether it would continue. This is what I wrote in reply:

Actually, sex can indeed change after a hysterectomy – but that does not mean that you will always have difficulty reaching an orgasm. Sexual changes following a hysterectomy can be influenced by hormonal changes (a woman’s ovaries produce both estrogen and androgens – like testosterone). Estrogen supports sexual function in various ways including helping with vaginal lubrication and the thickness of vaginal tissue; testosterone has been linked with sexual desire (libido). The method of hysterectomy may be linked to a woman’s physical experience of sex following the procedure. Continue Reading →

MSP Sex Q&A: How are orgasms supposed to feel?

 

Question: Okay, so I am pretty sure that I am (finally!) having orgasms. Only they don’t feel like I thought they would. Like, there’s no “high”. How are orgasms supposed to feel? Answer: Every woman’s experience of orgasm is different and, for reasons we don’t fully understand, not all women experience the “euphoric high” or sense of calm related to orgasm. Some women may simply experience less dramatic orgasms than others; then again, sometimes orgasm feels differently from different types of stimulation. Continue Reading →

MSP Sex Q&A: Where is a woman’s g spot?

Question: My wife and I were both virgins when we got married, so even though we are almost 30, we lack experience. Hence my question: where is a woman’s g spot? Does every woman have one? Answer: Technically speaking, the g spot is more like a zone than a spot (yes, I know, in spite of its name). It’s roughly one or two inches inside the vagina, on the front vaginal wall (the same side as one’s navel) and gentle but first pressure tends to stimulate the area better than light touching. Continue Reading →

MSP (Potentially) Great Sex Position of the Week: Coital Alignment Technique

If you’ve never heard of the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) technique, today is your lucky day. Mark it on your calendar and treat yourself to a glass of champagne on this day, every year, for the rest of your life. Or at least as long as you’re still enjoying CAT. In many ways, CAT is a simple technique. Then again, many of life’s most succulent pleasures lie in simplicity (think: a perfect red or a warm bath in the evening). Continue Reading →

MSP Sex Q&A: Why is her clitoris so sensitive after orgasm?

Question: After my girlfriend comes, she gets super sensitive. It’s like I can’t even go near her clitoris without her batting me away. In light of her sensitivity, how can I get her to have two orgasms in a row? Is this normal? Answer: Yes, it is totally normal and within the range of typical experiences for a woman to feel sensitive to touch right after orgasm. Continue Reading →

MSP Sex Q&A: How long do women’s orgasms last?

Question: I’ve heard that women’s orgasms last for several minutes, but mine seem much shorter. How long do they really last? Answer: Not long enough! Really, you will rarely ever (if ever) find a woman who says “ugh, my orgasm lasted way too long”. That’s because they really are fleeting events, lasting about 10 to 30 seconds depending on its intensity and the number of contractions involved in the orgasm. Continue Reading →

MSP Sex Q&A: Why is it so hard for women to have orgasms during sex?

Question: Why is it so darn hard for me to have an orgasm during sex? Is that normal?  
Answer: It is completely common for it to be difficult for a woman to orgasm during intercourse. In fact, it is often far easier for women to orgasm from direct clitoral stimulation, such as occurs during cunnilingus (oral sex performed on a woman), masturbation (solo or with a partner) or vibrator use. There is no one way to experience pleasure during sex; neither is there one “standard” path to orgasm. Continue Reading →

This week’s TOC: how to give a woman an orgasm, penis size, vaginal bleeding, and quicker orgasms

Check out my weekly In&Out sex column in Time Out Chicago, where I talk about issues related to men’s penis size and its relation to women having orgasms, vaginal discharge from fingering, and how to get a woman to go from taking about 90 minutes to orgasm to just under five (or so). Read the column on TOC’s web site. Continue Reading →

Coital Alignment Technique (one of the best sex positions!)

This week on Cheeky Chicago, you can find me talking about one of the most well-researched sex positions of all time: the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) - which, among male-female couples, has been found to be an easier sex position for some women to reach orgasm in. Is it perfect? No. Will all women who try CAT have an orgasm? Of course not! Continue Reading →