Orgasm

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Men’s Orgasms: They’re Not (Always) About You

That would be particularly true if you are a lesbian who only has sex with other women. But I digress. If you like/love/lust after men, then you also may like/love/lust after getting them aroused, encouraging them to make a move and watching them get increasingly excited and worked up during a heated make-out session or a passionate roll in the hay. It may even build your own excitement to think that you – yes, you, you sexy thing – are responsible for getting him so enormously aroused. Oh, and that you’re responsible for his orgasm, too. Continue Reading →

Pretending to Orgasm: Men Fake Too

A few years ago, I attended a conference at which University of Kansas professor Dr. Charlene Muehlenhard presented data regarding men who fake (or as she put it, “pretend”) to have an orgasm during various types of sex with a partner. Often women are characterized as the gender that pretends to orgasm when, in fact, men may pretend to orgasm, too. Continue Reading →

How to Orgasm During Sex: Tilt Your Hips, Ladies!

When it comes to female orgasm, there is no such thing as a sure thing. There is no magical Harry Potter spell (though those who saw promo photos of Daniel Radcliffe in Equus may wish there were). There is also no magic sure-thing sex position to take from women from “that was nice” to “that was wow”. But there are tricks. And there are ways to get a leg up. Tilting your hips is one such trick. Continue Reading →

How to Orgasm During Sex: Building Sexual Arousal

Women who are interested in learning to orgasm, or to enhance their current experience of orgasm, may find it helpful to learn about the role of arousal. Orgasm doesn’t exist in a vacuum, of course; it happens as a result of a build-up of sexual excitement and arousal. The more things heat up, the better chance you’ve got. Continue Reading →

MSP Q&A: The G Shot for the G Spot – does it work?

Question: Does the G Shot procedure work? Answer: Unfortunately, we have no scientifically published safety or effectiveness data on the so-called “G shot” (that I have seen, anyway). The G Shot involves an injection of collagen into the anterior (front) wall of the vagina, at or around the area described as the “g spot”. While some marketing sites for the g shot suggest that it is “FDA approved”, that is and is not true. Continue Reading →

Mary Roach on “Ten things you didn’t know about orgasm”

A former student alerted me to this YouTube video from TED (one of my favorite sites) of author extraordinaire Mary Roach discussing interesting research findings and case studies related to orgasm. If you haven’t yet read her books Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex and Stiff: The Curious Lives of Human Cadavers, check them out – she is incredibly smart, witty and funny. Continue Reading →

How to have an orgasm during sex

Question:
I’m 27 and never have I ever had an orgasm during sex – but it’s not for a lack of trying. What can I do? Answer:
Many women haven’t had orgasms during intercourse and many, like you, wonder why. In my work as a sex researcher, educator and columnist, I have literally heard from thousands of women who –in the absence of orgasm – wonder if there is something wrong with them or their bodies. What we don’t hear enough, however, is that what keeps women from having orgasms more often than not are feeling pressured and not having accurate information about one’s body. Continue Reading →