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The Real Threat Behind Same-Sex Marriage

Everyone who keeps saying that same-sex marriage threatens “traditional” marriage is doing two things:

Pissing off every anthropologist, folklorist, and cultural scholar who knows that there’s no such thing as “traditional” marriage, because marriage practices vary in every culture, region, and time period. Reinforcing the rigid gender roles that modern Western marriages are founded upon. Because, as Nursing Clio states in this excellent blog post, same-sex marriage is a threat to “traditional” marriage… once you realize that “traditional” marriage means patriarchal marriage, which is hierarchical and gender-essentializing. If you are in favor of things like married women having access to birth control, or single parents making their own parenting decisions, or any number of personal rights issues, then you, too, are a threat to “traditional” marriage as defined above – and you should be proud of it. Continue Reading →

Why Isn’t Anyone Worried About Bisexuals Getting Married?

After the Supreme Court’s ruling on DOMA and Prop 8, moving the U.S. closer to large-scale legal acceptance of gay marriage, I have to wonder: why hasn’t there been much fuss over bisexuals getting married? I wonder this, of course, with my tongue thoroughly lodged in my cheek, and because it exposes some of the hypocrisies and contradictions in the arguments against gay marriage. I’m not sure if the anti-gay-marriage folks realize this, but bisexual people have been getting married for a while now – they just happen to be marrying people of the opposite gender/sex assignment. And yet, bi folks have the potential to have “swung the other way” and ended up in a union with someone of the same sex/gender assignment (assuming that they’re into monogamy in the first place). In a sense, it’s almost as though non-heterosexual people have already been getting married… Continue Reading →

Morality Clauses And Homophobia

The ability of judges to write “morality clauses” into divorce papers can lead to enforcing homophobia, as in this Texas case wherein a judge is ordering a lesbian couple to not live together in order to “protect” the children involved. Because the couple cannot marry in Texas, and the judge is ordering that no adult not related by blood or marriage be in the house after 9pm, the family is caught in a bind. I wonder, too, whether there is a class issue involved here; some adults cannot afford their rent without housemates, so this kind of situation could be devastating for lower-income households. Either way, mandating that heterosexual marriage is the only acceptable situation for children to grow up in is both unrealistic and prejudiced. Continue Reading →

A Happy Trans* Story

It seems like everyone I know has been going through some stressful times lately, myself included. When I’m feeling sad, pictures of puppies tend to cheer me up, as well as some uplifting stories. If an uplifting story is what you need, I’ve got one for you! When a transgender member (Donnie Collins) of a fraternity in Boston required top surgery, the brothers decided to band together and raise the funds on the website indiegogo. The brothers haven’t listed their fraternity, and explain “We are doing this as individuals in an organization rallying around another individual. Continue Reading →

Is Sex-Based Medicine Helpful or Harmful?

Our society needs categories in able to function (or so it seems). These categories come in handy when we’re collecting data for the Census, but the rest of the time, they tend to do more harm than good. In the United States, many pharmaceutical companies and healthcare professionals use these categories to study human health. It seems like this would make sense, right? Some groups of people are prone to some diseases more than others, so stratifying the data could help to create cures or treatment specific to this group. Continue Reading →

Remember: We’re Not The First Advocates for Equality

As I wait with bated breath for the Supreme Court to make a decision on the repeal of DOMA and Proposition 8, I’m reminded of all those that came before me. In the past several years, the LGBTQ community has seen some incredible legal, social, and political advances. Just in my lifetime, I’ve seen several states pass laws that recognize same-sex unions, gays and lesbians in the military be allowed to discuss their sexuality openly, and have experienced a huge growth in cultural acceptance of the queer community. To put this in a different perspective, here are some numbers. A document from the Movement Advancement Project recorded that between 2000 and 2010, the United States experienced a 1300% increase in states outlawing gender discrimination based on gender presentation, a 600% jump in the number of high school Gay-Straight Alliances, and today, majority (57%) support for marriage equality. Continue Reading →

Act Less Gay For A Better Life?

An article I read recently hit a nerve. Apparently some teachers are telling kids that are being bullied that they need to act less gay. While this article is from England, I think that it is applicable for almost anywhere. The article from the London Evening Standard acknowledges that some children are teased for their sexuality, and I not only see this happen in college environments daily, but also witnessed it in my junior high and high school. A friend of mine actually started an organization, Write Your Principal, partially due to the bullying that LGBTQIQ students have had to face and also due to her own experiences. Continue Reading →

Protecting Heterosexual Marriage… Because Of “Unplanned” Offspring?

Lawyers defending the Defense of Marriage Act have chosen an unusual argument to make: only heterosexual couples can ”produce unplanned and unintended offspring,” and thus they need the sacrament of marriage to… I don’t know… protect them from… okay, I give up, they’ve lost me. That argument makes no sense whatsoever. Continue Reading →