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Wife-Beating Here And There

In a stunning reminder that misogyny is everywhere, televangelist Pat Robertson advises a Christian man to convert to Islam so that he can beat his disobedient wife. Which is not so far removed from an Egyptian cleric’s advice to husbands to beat their wives to keep them obedient. It would be nice if leaders (both religious and secular) everywhere spoke out against domestic abuse rather than condoning it. Or maybe they should consult us sex educators/researchers first so we can confirm for them that relationships based on abuse and fear are neither healthy nor desirable. Follow us on Twitter @mysexprofessor. Continue Reading →

Canadian Health Care Converts A Conservative

I’m always fascinated by what makes people change their minds. So this essay, by an anti-abortion religiously conservative American mother who moved to Canada, caught my eye. She writes about being skeptical about universal health care, as well as the availability of abortion. However, she realizes that fuller family-oriented services actually result in people having the sort of options that make them less likely to choose abortions and more likely to be able to raise healthy families. Good for her for being open-minded  enough to change her opinion when confronted with enough evidence and experience to the contrary; I know it’s not easy to give up the conviction of believing that you’re right! Continue Reading →

The Dark Side Of Belly Dance

As longtime MSP readers know, I’m a belly dancer in addition to a scholar and blogger. I’ve written posts about belly dancing and sexiness, the stigmas associated with belly dance, and the body acceptance that comes from belly dancing. I know, from doing academic research on the American belly dance community, that my perspectives are not wholly unique; many Western women find solace in the belly dance community, rediscover a sense of embodied pleasure, and feel greater self-esteem and confidence due to the dance. However, it’s not all sunshine and roses in the belly dance community. This very important (but potentially triggering) blog post by Charlotte Desorgher relates her experience visiting Cairo as a young belly dancer. Continue Reading →

A Pansexual Elected Official

Mary Gonzalez, elected to the Texas House of Representatives, recently came out as pansexual. She chooses that term because “gender identity isn’t the defining part of my attraction,” hence saying that she’s bisexual doesn’t technically describe how sexual attraction works for her. Significantly, she chose to come out after the election cycle, so while acceptance for alternative sexualities is increasing, it’s perhaps not yet to the point where displaying a non-heteronormative sexuality while campaigning is a good idea, sadly. Follow us on Twitter @mysexprofessor. Follow Jeana, the author of this post, @foxyfolklorist. Continue Reading →

Sex In The Media Affecting Teens How?

Research from Dartmouth suggests that teens who are “exposed to more sex on screen in popular films are likely to have sexual relations with more people and without using condoms.” Jezebel suggests that instead of parents trying to keep sex out of the Netflix queue, “talking to teens about sex (or, more appropriately, how ridiculous movie sex really is) [would] go a long way toward mitigating the danger that those teens would forgo condoms.” Obviously obviously obviously (I can’t say this enough) having universal, comprehensive, and truthful sex education is essential for helping young people make informed decisions (as studies from Europe and elsewhere have proven). However, I’m going to veer into confession territory and explain why I don’t think that sex in the media is inherently a bad thing. When I was growing up, my mom explained that she’d rather we see movies with sex than movies with violence. Continue Reading →

Queering Jewish Traditions

Though I’ve become far less spiritual in the past several years, my Jewish cultural identity is still a huge part of my life. I treasure all of the holidays- for the food, the family, and the inevitable craziness that comes with all of the above. However, I have struggled to find my place in the Jewish community as a queer individual. My family and the Jewish community I surround myself with are extremely supportive of me, but the “laws” don’t always agree. In fact, the synagogue that I attended all throughout my childhood (I even had my bat mitzvah there) does not perform same-sex marriage. Continue Reading →

Sexual Health Among Aboriginal Australians: An Interview with Kat Byron

The sexual health status in Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander (ATSI) communities is a hot topic among public health professionals in Australia, but rarely makes international news. I knew relatively little about Indigenous health before I moved to Australia and was shocked when I learned about the degree of health inequality between Indigenous and non-Indigenous Australians, especially since Australia has a nationalized healthcare system. To shed some light on this issue, I interviewed Australian sex and drug harm reduction educator Kat Byron about her extensive background working with ATSI communities on sexual health promotion. Kate: How did you get started working in Indigenous sexual health? Note: The “countries” listed below represent specific Aboriginal nations within Australia. Continue Reading →

The Sexed-Up Fairy Tales Of The Past

With all the fairy tale retellings that are popular today, ranging from dark like Grimm and Snow White and the Huntsman to light-hearted like Mirror Mirror and Brave, now’s a great time to look at sex in fairy tales. As I discuss over at my personal blog, fairy tales have always been flexible in form and function. Since they tend to address humanity’s big questions – what is a family, what is the role of the individual in society, what is love – it makes sense that sex would figure in there somewhere. I’ve already written on sex in Little Red Riding Hood, so today I’ll talk about two beloved Grimms’ tales: Sleeping Beauty and Rapunzel. Both have a much sexier history than most people know. Continue Reading →

Getting Married As A Sex Blogger

Working as a blogger here at has led me to take a new perspective on some aspects of getting married (which is happening this August, but I don’t think I’ve mentioned it yet for various reasons). Since I’ve been having such an interesting time of things, I thought I’d share some of my experiences here. 1. Writing for a sex blog means there’s no need for sex toys at the bridal show. Yes, we know it’s a classic rom-com and sitcom trope to have the gifts get mixed up so it looks like someone’s grandma is giving someone a giant dildo. Continue Reading →

The Sex-Positive Parent: An Interview with Founder Airial Clark

Airial Clark has an MA in Sexuality Studies and is the founder of The Sex-Positive Parent. She writes about the intersection of sex-positivity and parenting for multiple media outlets, teaches workshops for parents who have alternative sexualities, and offers one to one coaching for parents looking for sex-positive strategies and support. I first met Airial when we were both studying Anthropology at UC Berkeley. Who knew we’d both follow careers in sexuality education? When I learned about Airial’s amazing project, The Sex-Positive Parent, I couldn’t wait to share her inspiring message with the MSP community. Continue Reading →