Erotic Lactation

This summer, I’ve been nannying for two little boys, one who is 4 months old and one who is 7 months old. Each of them is still breastfeeding. One of the moms was recently talking to me about how much she enjoys breastfeeding, and mentioned that she had read somewhere that it is possible for women who are not breastfeeding to lactate post-orgasm. Of course, I needed to do my own research.

According to the Wikipedia page on erotic lactation, it is defined as “a person achieving sexual arousal by breastfeeding or sucking on a female’s breast. The Wiki page goes on to say that, depending on the context, the practice may also be called adult suckling, adult nursing, or adult breastfeeding and that individuals who practice this sometimes refer to themselves as being in an “adult nursing relationship”, abbreviated as “ANR”. Further, two people who are in an exclusive relationship that involves such practices may be described as a “nursing couple” – confusing to some as this term is also sometimes used for a nursing mother and her child.

Apparently it’s also considered – at least in some cases – to be somewhat deviant or atypical – and sometimes problematic for people and/or their relationships. (Not for everyone – many women and their partners may be turned on by lactating breasts, or being able to suck a lactating breast and taste breast milk, etc). However, the DSM apparently identifies diagnosable psychological disorders called “milk fetishism” and “lactophelia” (I can’t help but be reminded of Toni Morrison’s Song of Solomon here…anyone?). Unintended milk flow (galactorrhea) can occur as a result of nipple stimulation, and it’s apparently possible to lactate just from having someone suck on your nipple.

Some definitions from the Wikipedia page:

Lactation games
Any kind of sexual activity which includes the woman’s milk. Such activity is widespread, and often unintentional, in the time after a woman gives birth since many women experience a let-down reflex (releasing milk) when sexually aroused.
Lactation pornography
While lactation does appear in pornography, it is a specialy niche and is considered a taboo by many because of its proximity to incest and children. Most breast representations are without milk, and abound in the media in an erotic way both in and out of pornography.
Adult Nursing Relationship (ANR)
The suckling of milk from a female’s breast on a regular basis from one or more partner(s). Successful ANRs depend on a stable and long-term relationship, as, otherwise it is very difficult to maintain a steady milk flow. Couples may begin an ANR by transferring regular suckling from a child to a sexual partner (eg. husband). Such a relationship may form as an expression of close intimacy and mutual tenderness and may even exist without sex. Breastfeeding can have a strong stabilizing effect on the partnership.The breastfeeding woman may experience orgasms or a pleasurable let-down reflex.
ANRs have also been employed in cases where a mother may desire to breastfeed her child, but has to find an alternative to inducing lactation. She may have difficulty beginning lactation, so supplements the infants’s suckling with that of a partner. Or there are cases where breastfeeding was interrupted for an extended period of time as a result of infant prematurity, infant absence, or mother’s illness (taking prescription medication). In such cases, adult nursing has often caused lactation to continue until it was possible for the child to resume breast feeding. Others may want to nurse an adopted child, so uses an ANR to stimulate breastmilk production before the adoption occurs. Though such scenarios do not have erotic motivations, erotic expression may be an additional aspect of the relationship.
Pumping
Some women experience sensual pleasure from pumping milk from their breasts or expressing milk manually—with or without a partner. In addition to the sensual pleasure, women have reported feeling more feminine while producing milk and continue with lactation after weaning a baby for emotional or sensual reasons.
Lactation prostitution
This is the act of breastfeeding adults for pay (not to be confused with breastfeeding infants or babies for pay, ie: wet nursing). In 2003, there was a report of New Zealand brothel that offered lactation services to its clients.Though not strictly prostitution, a Beijing restaurant offered breastmilk-based dishes on its menu.
Infantilism
The non-lactating partner assumes the role of a baby in sexual role play.Breastfeeding might play a secondary role in this type of relationship, and being pampered by “mommy”, wearing diapers or a hidden incestuous character may be the predominant motivation in this kind of relationship.
BDSM
  1. Breastfeeding as a reward (or surrogate pleasure): Breastfeeding of the submissive partner can serve as a reward for his/her submission.
  2. Milking: Milking of the submissive woman, or commanding her to give milk for her dominant partner

 

 

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Michaela

Michaela is a recent Seven Sisters graduate with a self-designed degree in Sexuality Studies. When she's not blogging, you'll find her teaching Health and Wellness and A Cappella to high school students, helping women find properly fitting bras, and working as an editor on a documentary. She hopes to continue her education one day with a PhD in Feminist Anthropology.