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The Goodbye Letter: Can You Break Up On Paper?

I’m sure I’m not the first to say it, but relationships are great. They can make your life feel happier and fuller. Sometimes though, they come to an end, and the breakup might be amicable, it might be messy and full of drama, and it might be something anywhere between. Regardless of the reason for its ending, each relationship teaches you something, it has some impact on the person that you are at the time and shapes, at least in some small way, the way you will approach life in the future. Ending a relationship can trigger a lot of feelings, some private, and others that you might think are important to share with that person you invested part of your life in. Continue Reading →

The Search For A Hug Substitute

Long distance relationships are difficult. I know it’s certainly something I struggle with.  Lack of physical contact is really hard to deal with and I’m certain that I’m not the only one who feels this way. Even though distance and lack of touch is a problem, I don’t think it is an insurmountable problem, nor do I think it is necessarily a relationship ending problem. Telephones and video chat do make it easier to communicate, but don’t solve the physical contact problem. So how do you touch from across the country? Continue Reading →

Feminist Hulk

As of this moment, I still have yet to join Twitter. It’s not that I’m opposed to it, I think it’s a fairly useful social networking tool and means of communicating with people on the internet. I just don’t know that I need another thing on the internet to distract me from writing my BA thesis. So I have to count on my friends to alert me to funny/interesting things over there. They rarely fail me though. Continue Reading →

Genitals In The Wild: Phallic Lighting

A friend of mine recently turned to me and said “What do you think of the lightsabers?” I had no idea what he was talking about so he took me to see the new lighting that The University of Chicago recently put in. My first reaction was, as expected “Wow, those do look like giant lightsabers” and my second was “Why in the world did the university decide that we needed a whole bunch of really phallic looking lighting?” See more Genitals in the Wild photos. Have you spotted genitals in the wild? Continue Reading →

Cheese or Oral Sex?

About two years ago, one of my friend’s roommates asked me “Which would you rather give up forever, cheese or oral sex?” (It really wasn’t as unusual of a situation as you might think). I thought that it was an interesting question then, and I have to say that I’m still really intrigued by it now. As a result of my sometimes insatiable curiosity I’ve started putting the question to many (though not all, I do occasionally have a sense of propriety) of the people I encounter. This single, fairly straightforward “would you rather” has spawned a good deal of discussion in many of my social circles including my immediate family. Continue Reading →

Sixth Sense For Couples?

Just when I thought I was done talking about how your partner can’t read your mind,  science had to go and say that in some ways they can. It isn’t exactly mind reading or telepathy though. They have found that in many cases, people who are very close with each other start exhibiting the same brain activity. This synchronicity of their nervous systems helps them understand each other better. I wouldn’t give up on talking just yet though. Continue Reading →

I’ll Be There

As I’ve said in the past, I think that Planned Parenthood is an amazing organization. They are doing their best to provide reproductive health services, family planning options, and sex education to as many people as they can. I just finished an internship with the public policy department at Planned Parenthood of Illinois and it was a really incredible experience. The people that I worked under were all really enthusiastic about what they were doing, and my fellow interns were really creative and hardworking. I’m really glad that I got to help contribute something useful to this organization and the odds are pretty good that I’ll be back for some other volunteer work next year. Continue Reading →

Safe Sex: More Than One Meaning

A friend of mine just sent me a link to Fashionably Geek. The geek in me really loves all the geeky merchandise, and the sex geek in me really loved the pun on Safe Sex. It’s very cute, and I also appreciated the suggestion that it might help break the ice when trying to talk to kids about sex. Follow us on Twitter @mysexprofessor and make friends with us on Facebook. Continue Reading →

Mood Killer: Keep Work (And Laptops) Out Of The Bedroom

It’s fairly common knowledge that if you have trouble sleeping you should use your bed only for sleep and sex. It supposedly helps you associate your bedroom with these activities and doing things like watching television or working in bed will make it more difficult to use your bedroom for its intended purposes. It’s kind of hard to get in the mood for sex if things like laptops and books are strewn about everywhere. It is also worthwhile to note that hearing the sound of  your laptop hitting the ground after falling out of a loft bed is a huge mood killer. So keep your work elsewhere and let the bedroom be a safe and relaxing place. Continue Reading →