Holly Moyseenko

Holly Moyseenko is a sex educator living in Ohio. She is an advocate of positive and healthy sexuality. Holly currently works for a non-profit health organization as a health educator, and also teaches workshops that focus on many topics within the realm of healthy sexuality. In her spare time, she also is an advocate for survivors of sexual assault, gardens, reads anything within reach, drinks copious amounts of tea, and naps with her two dogs.

Recent posts

Hijra In India

What if you were born male, but identified as female? For many people, that would make their gender female (and I personally agree). In India, they have a “third gender” of people called hijra. As with transgender individuals in just about any country, hijra face discrimination and abuse. However, there seems to be more and more articles demanding support and equality, and there was even recently a Hijra Habba (festival). Continue Reading →

Child Support Discount?

If you’re anything like me, you have a frequent shopper card for each store on your keychain and more cards in your wallet (related: is it just me or are the frequent shopper stamp cards becoming extinct?). A reverend friend of mine jokingly told a client that if he got married five times, the fifth wedding ceremony was on her – and she ended up performing a free wedding ceremony. So, with this in mind, I can see where Desmond Hatchett is coming from (although I don’t necessarily agree with him). Skimming Yahoo News the other day, I read about Mr Hatchett who is hoping for a break on the child support that he owes for his 30 children. Raising kids is expensive, so I can understand why people request child support (I have two dogs, and that easily adds up – I’m not ready to even think about how much debt I would be in if kids entered the picture). Continue Reading →

Keep Your Cancer Off Facebook

I just posted about how Facebook banned a woman from posting pictures of her newborn son, and now here’s a story about Facebook banning a woman’s mastectomy photos. I’ve seen other inspirational photos of women who have battled breast cancer, so I’m not surprised that someone shared their photos on Facebook. Joanne Jackson from the UK had photos taken after her mastectomy, and chose to share them on Facebook. I love what she had to say about the photos: “I am not one who is shy but these pictures weren’t as much about me as about other women who had maybe just been diagnosed with breast cancer. It doesn’t have to be a death sentence and there is life after a mastectomy.” Continue Reading →

Gay Penguin Parents

Anyone who knows me, knows that I love penguins. As such, any time I run across a story that features one even slightly, I get a big smile across my face (even if it’s so not related to sexuality – like when a man in a penguin outfit got more votes than a candidate not dressed as a penguin!). So imagine my delight when I came across a story about two Gentoo penguins in Madrid who have “adopted” a baby penguin. The two penguins are both male and are considered by some activists to be gay, although one of the zookeepers considers them to be just “good friends.” They have been “good friends” for six years now and their zookeepers decided to give them an egg to nurture together. Continue Reading →

Only Post Pretty Pictures

My friend Jenny shared a story (ironically?) on Facebook that is all about how Facebook banned a mother’s photos, and later put the mother on a 24 hour ban from the site. I know many people who have had some rather heated discussions lately over the Timeline on Facebook, but this upsets me more. Sometimes life isn’t always sunshine and roses, and similarly that means that not every photo a person takes is going to show the “pretty” things. So Heather Walker’s son was born with Anencephaly (a defect that results in the child missing portions of the brain and skull)? One of the first things that parents do is take photos of their beautiful baby, and the Walker family was no different. Continue Reading →

Text A Warning

While it’s not the most uplifting or fun topic, one of my areas of interest is sexual assault (if you ever want to kill someone’s interest in you, I find that telling them this is what I study is a great way to have them quickly exit the conversation). A lot of people don’t seem to know that if a person is under the influence of anything they cannot legally consent. This doesn’t mean that a person has to be blacking out, but even a single drink can impair a person’s judgement. It’s important to note that in many parts of the world (including America), the most common date rape drug is actually alcohol. In light of this, I was interested to read that Scotland Yard police will be sending text messages to people in bars warning them of the risks of sexual assault. Continue Reading →

Awkward Engagement Photos

Yep, I still have wedding brain. However, this post will hopefully get a laugh out of you. Knowing I’m getting engagement photos done soon, my friend sent me a link to Buzzfeed’s 30 Most Awkward Engagement Photos (he said it was “inspiration” for me). Some are more poor photography than awkward, but some are really… well, see for yourself. Continue Reading →

Where To Wed?

It’s gearing up to be wedding season (although the specific “in season” months depend on where you are), and I’ll probably be posting plenty about weddings in the next two months especially as mine is coming up. Glamour magazine has a wedding blog, and they recently posted “5 Unusual Wedding Venues I’ll Bet You’ve Never Considered.” And yup, they definitely are listing five I’d never thought of. Those five are a gun shop, an igloo, a gas station, a haunted house, and on the Titanic (timely with the movie just coming out in 3D). I’ve been to a wedding at the (former) prison where the movie “The Shawshank Redemption” was filmed, and that’s the closest I’ve come to a haunted house wedding. Continue Reading →

Cunnilingus vs. Fellatio

A friend of mine was posting on Facebook about how blow jobs are dead, after he read an article from Esquire. Now, that’s not quite what the article says. The article is indeed called “The Observation: The Demise of the Blow Job” (but comes up in my browser as “Death of the Blow Job”), but it’s less about the death of fellatio and more about the rise of cunnilingus. To be fair, the author does mention that the 8 out of 10 men who prefer cunnilingus to fellatio are their “mature male friends”, and the 2 who prefer fellatio are gay. I’m not sure if it’s true that cunnilingus has fallen into favor, or if maybe people are more comfortable talking about it and it’s just getting more attention. Continue Reading →

Spermicidal Condoms & N9

I came across an article called “What Spermicide Users Should Know, But Often Don’t” by Gretchen Cuda Kroen the other day that reminded me of the downsides to spermicides, specifically nonoxynol-9. While nonoxynol-9 is very effective at helping to prevent pregnancy and STIs, it can also have some negative effects. Studies have shown that nonoxynol-9 may leave its users more susceptible to HIV. Also, more and more people are reporting have sensitivity issues to it. These sensitivity issues can be mild and somewhat annoying to pretty bad (for example, some people have developed rashes, severe itching, etc.) Also, the amount of nonoxynol-9 that stays on the condom isn’t as much as if someone would add some spermicide on their own – so if you do prefer spermicide as your method of birth control, just know that you can easily add a dab of spermicide to the inside and outside of the condom. Continue Reading →