Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.

Recent posts

Masturbation Sleeves: More Cushion for Your Pushin’

Masturbation sleeves are another term for “pocket pussies” – basically, squishy cylinders that men can insert their penis in and masturbate. You can do that and so much more with a masturbation sleeve, making them a fun surprise gift for boyfriends and husbands. Here are a few things you might want to know about masturbation sleeves:

- Some sleeves have one opening (more like a vagina in the sense that a man’s penis can only go so far before he “hits” something on the other end) whereas others have an opening on each end. Dual opening sleeves are ideal for men with a longer than average penis and they are also well-suited for couples who want to put the sleeve on a man’s penis, push it down toward the base and then hop on top for intercourse. – They come in different designs so that men can insert their penis into what looks like a vagina, anus, mouth or random objects (flowers, etc). Continue Reading →

DIY Travel Dildo: first failed sex toy attempt involved airplane peanuts (NSFW)

A few months ago I had an assignment from Time Out Chicago magazine to make a do-it-yourself (DIY) sex toy. While sex toys and gadgets can be fun, there is a particular satisfaction that comes with making your own. As I had recently written about food-related sex play in their Food & Sex issue (click here to read the article or to see photos of me with bananas, cucumbers and strawberries), we wanted to go for something other than the “use a cucumber for a dildo” routine. After perusing the internet for ideas, skimming books, talking with friends and consulting Searah from the amazing Chicago-based sex boutique Early to Bed, I narrowed down my list of ideas to several DIY sex toys that I thought would be relatively manageable and somewhat photogenic in case we wanted to show the actual toys in TOC. Then life happened. Continue Reading →

Taffy Tickler Dildo from Adam & Eve

Every now and then a sex toy comes along that sparks my curiosity (the We-Vibe, Sasi and Lelo “Bo” are recent examples). Most recently, I’ve been impressed with the Taffy Tickler dildo. Years ago, glass dildos made headlines all on their own. In fact, women and men still write me with questions about glass dildos, wanting to learn more about their advantages (e.g., how you can warm or cool them by running them under warm or cool water, how they are easy to clean under a faucet or in a dishwasher, and how they offer firm stimulation during sexual play). What’s cool about the Taffy Tickler is that it’s a new level of glass dildo. Continue Reading →

What to do when a condom breaks

Most of the time sex runs relatively smoothly, but every now and then a sex crisis occurs that makes it necessary for you to drop everything and fix it ASAP. Here’s how. Sex Crisis #1: The Condom Breaks

Although condoms rarely break or slip off, sometimes you and your partner may end up on the wrong end of bad luck. How did it happen? Maybe you forgot to check the expiration date and you used a condom from your secret high school stash. Continue Reading →

How men should shave their pubic hair: a video from Gillette

Ah yes. A video for men about how to shave the pubic hair around their penis and scrotum. Or as this Gillette video says “trimming the bush to make the tree look taller”. Because a tree (made of wood) is likened to a hard, erect penis (what lovelier analogy could there be?). I kind of love Gillette for being out there about men’s pubic hair shaving practices even though I realize it’s a marketing ploy and a total play on men’s insecurities about their penis size – and that part sucks. Continue Reading →

Is pulling out (withdrawal) as effective as condoms?

Already today I’ve heard from a few people who have questions about a study recently published in the journal Contraception that suggests that pulling out (the withdrawal method of birth control) rivals condoms in terms of effectiveness in reducing pregnancy risk. Before you accept that as a take-home message, though, let me share my thoughts about the study’s findings and how it applies to what people need to know about their sexual and reproductive health choices: Continue Reading →

Vibrating Cock Ring for Men and Couples: The Lelo Homme “Bo”

Recently I learned of a new toy in the Lelo line of sex toys for women, men and couples: this one is actually part of their male line called “Homme” (which you may know means “man” in French). This particular toy in the Homme line is called the “Bo” and it’s interesting to me for many reasons. Continue Reading →

Don’t believe everything you hear about teenagers, sex, oral sex or prostitution

Unfortunately, this ABC/Good Morning America article opted for sensationalism rather than responsible reporting, in my opinion. In it, they discuss a filmmaker who taped teenagers talking about sex including having oral sex at young ages and stripping or having sex for money or consumer goods (what they term “casual prostitution”). However, ask most researchers who study adolescent sexuality and they’ll tell you a very different story: Continue Reading →

Sexsomia or sleep sex: How sleep disorders are linked to sex

Having worked as a sex researcher, educator and columnist over the past decade, one of the more interesting questions that I’ve been asked – and quite a few times, by the way – pertains to sexual behaviors that occur during sleep (sometimes called sexsomnia or sleepsex). Sometimes people (usually women) have described their partner’s (usually men) behavior as such: that while they were sleeping, they would wake up to find that their partner was masturbating – often quite aggressively or even “violently”, according to their descriptions. Or else they would wake to find that their partner was trying to have sex (usually intercourse) with them. In all cases that I can recall hearing about, the person who was exhibiting sleepsex didn’t remember doing whatever it was he’d been doing the next day. Often the woman would try to wake him from his sleep, sometimes successfully, other times not. Continue Reading →