Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.

Recent posts

How to make Open Relationships Work

In most cultures, people claim to practice monogamy. Lifetime monogamy (being involved with only one person for one’s entire life) is rare. Serial monogamy (having a series of exclusive relationships over one’s life) is more common. And while we talk an awful lot in our culture about cheating – that is, having sex with people outside of monogamous relationships – we talk a whole lot less about open relationships or polyamory, the practice of having “many lovers”. That doesn’t mean that men and women aren’t having open relationships, though – it just means many people are silent about them. Continue Reading →

How to make a Long Term Relationship Work

Last week we talked about how to make the sometimes angst-ridden friends with benefits relationships work. This week, it’s all about the long haul. When you’ve finally found that certain someone who you want to be with forever and ever, how do you move past the let’s-gaze-at-shooting star stage to something more lasting? Though every relationship is unique – and some need more attention than others – here are 5 tips toward a good start (or a mid-range jump-start) on long term love. Continue Reading →

Four tips for better woman on top sex position fun

Woman on top is one of the most commonly chosen sexual intercourse positions in many Western countries and yet it is also one of the more challenging sex positions for couples. Many women and men are unsure what to do once the woman gets on top and some men find that it is difficult to maintain their erection in woman on top. Couples may benefit from exploring different ways of “doing” woman on top. Here are four suggestions for woman on top sex: Continue Reading →

In Japan, Love hotel business goes boom boom boom

According to a CNN article about love hotels, business for “love hotels” has been doing just fine in spite of a downward economy. What’s a love hotel, you ask? Well, in a country cramped for space and privacy, couples can rent rooms for even just a few hours to go and make love/have sex. Love hotels are often wildly decorated like mini adult theme parks so that couples can play doctor/patient, go around on a merry go round, or engage in teacher/student games. Check out love hotel photos in this Wired article. Continue Reading →