Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.

Recent posts

Bloomington, Indiana Mayor Marrying Local Same Sex Couples Tonight

Tonight, the heartland grows a little more heart. Here in Bloomington, Indiana – where I live and work – our mayor, Mark Kruzan, will conduct a wedding ceremony for more than a dozen same-sex couples at the 10th anniversary of the PRIDE LGBTQ Film Festival. Two of these couples are pictured here. (Express your support/thanks by sending an email to Mayor Mark Kruzan at: mayor (at) bloomington.in.gov)

The event’s press release describes tonight’s marriage ceremony (which is not legally binding as same-sex couples still cannot legally get married in Indiana!) as being “in protest against the proposed constitutional amendment HJR-6 (ban of same sex marriage)”. The proposal for the constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage has already passed Indiana’s House and Senate (back in 2011) but it has to go up again – and likely will soon – before going before Indiana voters. Continue Reading →

Ray Bradbury on the Science Fiction of Birth Control

Ray Bradbury, in an interview for The Paris Review (emphasis mine):
Science fiction is the fiction of ideas. Ideas excite me, and as soon as I get excited, the adrenaline gets going and the next thing I know I’m borrowing energy from the ideas themselves. Science fiction is any idea that occurs in the head and doesn’t exist yet, but soon will, and will change everything for everybody, and nothing will ever be the same again. As soon as you have an idea that changes some small part of the world you are writing science fiction. It is always the art of the possible, never the impossible. Continue Reading →

My Love of Sex

I was thinking this morning of the difficulty some people have talking about sex – whether as a topic of news, politics, or health, or even about their own sexual life with the person they like or love and/or with whom they are being sexual. A conversation came back to me that I once had with a sort-of-partner who wasn’t one for talking about sex in the personal realm. I had said something to him about how I saw sex as a celebration and as a normal part of life, and so talking and laughing were part of all that. When this conversation came back to me today, the part about it being a celebration nagged at me. Although I often say that sex is a celebration, today I asked myself, “a celebration of what?” These were my gut reactions: for me, being sexual with another person is a celebration of being alive and of being human – in a very basic, fundamental way – with another person. Continue Reading →

Can’t Eat When You Break Up? Investigating the Gut-Brain Response

We often find what we need to find when we’re not looking for it. That’s how it was for me recently, spending a lazy Sunday afternoon searching the scientific literature for research related to “communication about feelings” (isn’t that what everyone does on Sundays?). Instead of finding research related to how people talk or avoid talking about their feelings, I found myself taken in by the first result: an article published in a 2011 issue of Nature (specifically their neuroscience reviews)titled “Gut feelings: the emerging biology of gut-brain communication”. I was intrigued for two reasons: (1) one of my good friends, who also happens to be a neuroscientist, often talks about gut decisions (they are not always the ‘right’ decisions to make but they deserve attention); and (2) I had recently talked with a friend about some of my own gut-brain-emotional responses and it left me with a nagging question. What happened is this: I had shared a story about how, when I was 19, I lost my appetite for a week. Continue Reading →

How to Not Be Creepy in Public

Recently we had a Krampus event in the town where I live and it was pretty impressive. And yet – in spite of the awesomeness of the larger than life Krampus figures showing children (and adults) what happens when one is naughty or nice – I was dealing with another issue. Not a Krampus, but a Creeper. You see, there was a long procession that involved the crowd of people who had come to see the Krampus actually get to walk along a pathway with the various Krampus and angels. My two friends from work and I were part of the throng. Continue Reading →

How a Therapist Can Ease Your Separation or Divorce

Aside from Ice-T and Coco (who will always hold a special place in my heart as she and I were both stalked by the same strange man), I seem to be encountering so many breakups, separations, and divorces these days in my personal and professional spheres, not to mention the readers I hear from on a regular basis. Some of these endings are going fairly smoothly. Ohers have taken ugly turns. It doesn’t have to be this way. When a marriage or committed partnership (especially one that’s involved two or more people living or raising children together) comes to an end, it’s common for people to call an attorney. Continue Reading →

My Non-Thing Holiday Gift Guide

Recently, two friends and a few readers have asked if I’m planning to pull together a sex-themed gift guide. We’ve done this in the past and may do so again this year. I’ve heard from people who have bought the books, art, and sex toys we’ve suggested and their relationships and/or orgasms have been the better for it, so that’s encouraging. Certainly, books and sex toys can make a difference in a person or a couple’s sex life, relationship, or marriage – especially when they are chosen with thought. But, these days, my heart and mind are elsewhere. As holiday shopping emails arrive in my Inbox at an ever-feverish pace, my eyes scan for the “unsubscribe” link and I disengage from all but my favorite stores. Continue Reading →

Who “Owns” Information about the Clitoris?

Apparently the Museum of Sex (an interesting place) has a blog. I learned about their blog because, on it, they have a post titled “How Cosmo Stole the Clitoris” in which it’s suggested that Cosmo writer Jessica Knoll “stole” aspects of her article from a MoSex blog post. Not only that, but the blogger who wrote the post – Julie Ruvolo – suggested that either I was misquoted in the Cosmo article (I was not) or I was “in on it” (I was not “in” on anything except that I agreed, as I do several times per week, to be interviewed on sexuality topics for a magazine). Ms. Ruvolo never contacted me to ask about the Cosmo article or anything else pertaining to this article. She didn’t fact check with me. Continue Reading →

Vibrator Research Study – Looking for Participants!

Our Indiana University research team is currently recruiting 18+ year old, male/female monogamous couples into a study about vibrator use. Participants will receive vibrators in the mail and will earn gift cards for participating in the study. You can learn more below and at the study website. – Debby

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Our research team at Indiana University is recruiting heterosexual, monogamous couples between the ages of 18 and 50 to participate in a study related to the daily sexual experiences of couples who use vibrators. Most research to date has focused on sexual behaviors and perceptions on rates of vibrator use within the US. Continue Reading →

A Vibrator Researcher Checks out the Vibrator Movie, Hysteria

Being something of a “vibrator researcher” (see here, here, here, and here for starters), it’s perhaps not surprising that I wanted to see Hysteria – the new so-called “vibrator movie” – as soon as I could. Fortunately, it was playing nearby at the IU Cinema (a beautiful venue for watching films). The verdict? I enjoyed Hysteria. I went for escapist fun and it delivered. Continue Reading →