How Fashion Should Feel

One thing that always frustrates me when I hear about fashion shows is that they never let you touch the clothes – sure, they look good on stage, but how would they feel pressed against my body, or better yet, against someone else’s?  Is that leather jacket one I would love to run my hand over when holding my lover?  How does my partner’s ass feel through that satiny dress?  Do the buttons undo easily, or will they need to be torn off?

I’ve always been a tactile person, running my hands along the tops of wheat fields and racks of clothes alike.  I judge clothes more by how they feel than how they look  I have to be careful talking about this however – when introducing myself in a small class once, I made the mistake of saying “I’m a tactile person, I love the way things feel running through my hands,” and then rubbing my hand over my wrist while elaborating, “Sometimes when I’m bored I just sit in the corner and touch myself.”  The class took a moment before losing it with laughter and a few people decided to tease me further by saying. “What’s Craig doing in the corner there?”  “Oh, don’t worry about him, he’s just a tactile person.”

Bottom line – I love how things feel, and I think that fashion should pay more attention to that.  The next time you’re shopping for something and have tried it on, take a minute to run your hands up and down the fabric, seeing how it feels in your hands and on your body.  Trust me, you’ll get just as much information from that as from a quick glance in a mirror.

In terms of fabric, if you’re tactile like me, go for satin, silk, leather, and lace.  There’s a reason the simple mention of these names evokes a bit of erotic energy, yet can still be found displayed in most windows in the mall.  Also, try some sexy new fabrics: microsuede and polypro glide over the skin, and if you can find a vintage t-shirt or jeans that have been worn in to the softest cottony touch imaginable – you’ve found it, you’re there.

Remember to use all of your senses for fashion!

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About Craig VanKempen

Craig VanKempen

Craig VanKempen, LLMSW/MPH, is a sex educator and therapist practicing in the Detroit/Ann Arbor area. His professional interests include HIV, polyamory, compulsive sexual behavior, religion and sexuality, and GLBT issues.