It has been almost a year since I made my first and thus far only “Walk of Shame”. For those of you who haven’t heard the term before the first definition on Urban Dictionary says “the walk across campus in the same clothes as yesterday after you slept with someone and spent the night in their dorm room.” Or for those who want something more reputable, the online Oxford English Dictionary defines it: “n. slang (orig. and chiefly U.S. College slang) (with the) the walk home (from another person’s dormitory, etc.) in the morning after a sexual encounter, etc.“
I remember getting funny looks from all of the people that I passed on the street that day and realizing that this must be the “Walk of Shame” I had heard so much about. I also remember being puzzled about why I was supposed to be ashamed. I have to confess that even now the whole concept of the “Walk of Shame” still makes no sense to me. I think it is silly to try to make someone feel ashamed for having a sexual encounter.
What’s the big deal, anyway?
I understand that sex is still a taboo subject for many, but having sex seems to be a fairly standard practice, particularly on the average college campus. I don’t understand why college students who ostensibly want to engage in this activity would want to make it seem like an embarrassing or shameful thing to do. I may be completely off base here, but I feel like making the activity have an unpleasant conclusion the next morning would make it less likely to occur again. Sure it won’t stop everyone from having sex, but it will certainly make some individuals think that it just isn’t worth it. And I don’t think that is a good thing, people should have no reason to be ashamed of their sexuality.
Another question worth considering is: Do we want the people we’ve had sex with to be ashamed that they had sex with us? I think not. I’m sure it’s a huge ego boost to think that someone is now ashamed because they had sex with you. I think it would be much more desirable for someone to feel awesome that they had sex with you.
Time to Rebrand
Thus, we come to my proposition. I think we should reframe the “Walk of Shame” as the “Walk of AWESOME” or some other positive feeling. Someone doing the “Walk of AWESOME” would easily be able to make eye contact with people on the street and would be able to feel good about their decisions. If you don’t like this particular reframing Dinosaur Comics came up with a few alternatives not too long ago. I think that having an alternate mindset about the whole thing makes for a more sex positive world, and I’m pretty sure that’s a winning scenario.