Monthly Archives: March 2009

Can you get an infection from a Brazilian bikini wax?

Recent news reports have indicated that Brazilian bikini waxes may soon be banned in New Jersey due to the fact that two women have apparently been hospitalized with infections that they got from their Brazilian wax procedures. Although redness, irritation and pain are common side effects or experiences of waxing, infection is not. In fact, last year when a reader had asked me whether they could get a sexually transmissible infection (STI) such as chlamydia from a bikini wax, I called the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and was told that they were not aware of any such reported cases. Of course, it’s not that it’s impossible to get certain infections from waxing if one’s aesthetician is double dipping the stick used to spread on wax (thus possibly contaminating the wax) but it’s unclear which types of bacteria or viruses might remain alive in the wax and which would die. The type of infection(s) that the women were hospitalized for was not specified. Continue Reading →

Playing With Men’s Testicles: Fun Sex Games

Some sex games are about spicing things up in more traditional ways. For example, role playing and dressing up in costumes may come to mind (i.e., doctor/nurse, warden/prisoner, teacher/student). Other times, people find playful ways to enjoy sex together and these playful moments could be considered a form of sex play or a sex game. Case in point: Testicular Play. You may have heard about teabagging (which involves someone taking their partner’s testicles into their mouth during oral sex play) and other ways to play with a man’s testicles, such as licking them or sucking them to enhance his pleasure or arousal. Continue Reading →

Multiple Orgasms for Women and Men: What You MUST Know

Although a few men have been found to be able to ejaculate repeatedly in a row, most men cannot have multiple orgasms*. For reasons not well understood by scientists, men have what’s called a refractory period – the time between a man’s last ejaculation and his ability have another one. Women, on the other hand, sometimes find that they can experience multiple orgasm (the ability to have one orgasm after another, without losing sexual arousal). These orgasms may be separated by seconds or by several minutes. They may be of a similar intensity or level of pleasure or they may differ (and no, the second or third is not always better or worse than the first; there’s no real order or hierarchy to multiple orgasms). Continue Reading →

Birth Control Pill Myths: It’s Hard to Get Pregnant After You Stop Taking the Pill

Having taught human sexuality classes for years and having worked in health clinics, I have been asked many times whether it’s harder to get pregnant after a woman stops taking the birth control pill. The idea that it’s harder for a woman to get pregnant after stopping the birth control pill is a myth. The hormones that are in birth control pills leave a woman’s body soon after she stops taking them, and it is possible for her to become pregnant within the month after she stops taking hormonal birth control. A woman’s fertility is not affected be having taken the pill in the past. That said, you may sometimes hear about doctors advising women to “wait a few months” to actively try to get pregnant after stopping the birth control pill. Continue Reading →

Phone Sex: Orgasm and iPhone 3.0 Software Included

I have to admit. The inspiration for this post was not what you might expect: it was Gizmodo’s article about the iPhone 3.0 OS software which includes features I have long waited for such as copy and paste, turn-by-turn directions (like the Garmin), and – whoa there – the ability to tether your iPhone to your laptop to get internet access. This is totally going to change my airport experience. Thanks to Apple, when I think of orgasmic phone sex, I am now thinking of my iPhone. But perhaps you’re reading this because you want to learn about how people have sex over the phone, right? Continue Reading →

Sex Toy Shopping Tip #2: Choosing vibrators that are more quiet than loud

This post is Part 2 of a four-part series on shopping for sex toys. If you haven’t already done so, read Part 1, and check back next week for Part 3. Tip #2: Know your (noise) limits. Everyone has their own comfort sound when it comes to sound. Some of us go full throttle with our iPods or televisions (in spite of the potential damage to our ear drums) while others keep the volume more moderate or quiet. Continue Reading →

MSP Sex Q&A: What are polyamorous relationships like? Can they work?

Question: What are polyamorous relationships like? Can they work? Answer: Strictly speaking, polyamory refers to the practice of having “several lovers”. In practice, people use this term to describe a variety of different sexual and romantic relationship structures including open relationships between two people (in which it is understood that one or both partners may sometimes be sexual with others), swinging, tribes or circles (two terms sometimes used to refer to groups of people who may be sexual with each other, either at the same time or in coupled situations) and other types of structures. Human beings are creative and, as such, there are numerous ways that they may experience openness in their sexual and romantic relationships. Continue Reading →

Planned Parenthood Fundraiser in Chicago

Last week I emceed the Freedom Friday fundraiser for Planned Parenthood of Illinois (you can see one other photo here). The event photographer was kind enough to email me a few photos but as I don’t have any others of the event these are all I can share. If anyone finds other event photos online, please send them to me and I will pass on! The event co-chairs, Betsy Lehman Levisay and Jenny Friedes, were so well-spoken in their promotion of the quality of work that Planned Parenthood of Illinois does and I was enormously proud to be part of such an event. I was also happy to hear Steve Trombley and Julie Gold (“Mid” Lifetime Achievement Award recipient who was honored) speak about their passion for women’s reproductive health rights and the ongoing work of Planned Parenthood. Continue Reading →

FDA Approves a New Female Condom – and These Videos Are Wow

The other day I got an email alerting me to the fact that the FDA had approved a new version of the Female Condom which is distributed far more often in other countries than in the US and is hence more popular in other parts of the world. The new female condom is made of a synthetic rubber rather than polyurethane and is expected to be more affordable than the previous incarnation of the female condom. But will that result in any increased use of it? Or is the gendered expectation that men are the ones who wear condoms? Today, thanks to Twitter, I learned that Audacia Ray of the International Women’s Health Coalition posted a video to educate people about the female condom and the varied reasons why it hasn’t quite taken off in many Western countries. Continue Reading →